“Be A Champion Quitter”

It’s Time To Quit!

Many times it is time to quit and it is a good thing to do.

It is always a good time to quit …

• Making excuses for wrong behavior.
• Avoiding responsibilities I should assume.
• Letting bitterness control my life.
• Being rotten to those who genuinely care.
• Repeating self-destructive habit patterns.
• Etc.

We all face times when being a quitter is the most caring or sensible choice we can, and should, make.

Champions are people who quit at the right time and for the right reasons.

If it is not your “time,” maybe someone you know has been a “champion quitter.”

Why not take a moment and tell that person you noticed and are proud of him or her?

And, if you are a recent “champion quitter,” stand up and take a bow — and a great big “Congrats!” from Lee

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Three Life Affirming, Life Directing Questions

Common Components Of A Quality Life

It seems to me that a quality life is one that is driven by three components:

I must also discover and decide what is most valuable.  That’s based on truth of course.

And finally I must  love what is true and valuable.  That is, I commit myself in a whole-hearted fashion to the pursuit of that which is based on truth and which I value most in life.

How many hurt feelings and fights could be avoided if the truth was out in the open from the beginning.

I heard a story in church a number of years ago which illustrates this need.

It was said that a mom was correcting her child.  She had said, “I want you to know that if you come home early from school today again for getting in trouble you are  really going to get it.”

The child did return early and was disciplined immediately.  Following whatever form of discipline or correction had taken place, the question came:  ”So, what did you do this time? “

Then through tears the answer was given: “Nothing, mom. School was dismissed early.”

A sad story, but one that illustrates our need to understand the facts for the purpose of discerning what may or may not be true in a given situation.

What Is Most Important?

When I’m considering changing jobs, giving direction to my child, making serious health-related decisions, or any number of other “high level important stuff,” it is always helpful to know:

A real-life example?

Sure.  When my wife’s mom was dying of cancer she made a simple decision to  do as much as she could  to help her. She knew and accepted the truth: mom was dying.  In a matter of time the relationship here on earth would not continue.

She kept close contact with her (even from a distance), and at the right time went to spend time “just to help and do what I can.”

My wife understood the truth and she made a series of decisions based on her love for mom.  She factored in what was most valuable to her at that phase of her life…

And she acted.

Which leads us to the next point…

What Is My Level Of Commitment?

Once the facts are realized and accepted, and  the degree of importance is acknowledged, a good question to ask is…

What will I commit myself to do at this time in view of what I know to be true and valuable in this situation?

In other words, based on my assessment of the situation, what am I willing to do now?

Generally speaking, the higher my “value level” the greater my commitment will be.

Typically, the “I’ll do whatever it takes” decision is based on what I feel I can do and what I desire to take place with all my heart.

Continuing To Ask…

• Could you use one or more of the three simple, but not simplistic, questions to assist you in any way at in your business?  What about at home?
• How might you define what is valuable?  Have you listed your top values and decided to live by those?  Or, if this is a very easy question for you, could you assist others in helping them to identify their most cherished values?

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Lee is a writer an online marketer and coach. With a passion for on purpose living and making a positive impact in the world, he seeks to encourage people in their personal and professional lives. See his Inspirational Handbook for Attraction Marketers here http://attractionmarketinghandbook.com

Interesed in exploring the possibility of working with Lee as a coach? Go here to check out his FREE 15 minute session and learn more. http://marketingmerge.com/coaching

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And just supposing that your current situation finds you squarely on “the business side of life,” these questions may help in your personal development in that area.  Remember, this site is all about harnassing the power of purpose and self-development for attraction marketing excellence!

• When speaking with someone about your particular opportunity, how might you use one of these questions?
• As you plan, refine and think about developing your unique brand — or teach others to do so — how might these questions help?
• And what about designing your own marketing funnel?  Could these types of question help in any way as you plan ahead, thinking about your marketing strategy, etc?

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Letting The Business Go
In Order To Welcome The Family In…
5 Tips For Balancing Life In The “Heart Zone”

You purposed to place your family first, decided to slow things down in order to hear your heart speak, listened to your heart regarding the needed time with those you love, and even developed an affirmation to help you along the way.

Super!

In the last of this series, allow me to share with you what I am calling…

Five Tips For Balancing Life In The “Heart Zone.”

One Word Reminders

1. Analyze
2. Acknowledge.
3. Create.
4. Listen.
5. Bring In The Joy

Analyze Your Patterns

Essentially, this is the time honored process of playing “I Spy” on yourself.  Allowing your purpose to continually push you in the right direction, you choose to…

Take note of your responses as they concern the family.

• Internal responses.
• External responses.
• And how they tie into each other.

You choose to see…

• What’s going on,
• Why it’s going that way,
• And if a pattern does in fact exist.

On Fridays do you find it difficult to mentally take part in anything “family” because you already began the process of seeing what needs to be done on Monday?

And what about dinner?  Is dinner a mental extension of work or a welcome break?

Do you consistently find it difficult to pay engage in whole hearted listening because of where your mind really is?  If so, is there a pattern?  And if you find one, why is that so?

The point: if you located a “heart tension” on any level that needs to be addressed, you simply must be alert to any patterns going on — inside and out — that may be observed.

And once you notice the tension spots on the playing field of your life, you must…

Acknowledge Any Failure

While in the “acknowledge any failure mode,” the effects of your failure must be noted.

• Not pleasant.
• Certainly not easy to accept.
• But failure and its effects must be noted.

You know I strive for balance in these types of “discussions,” so please allow me to state the obvious.

Should you be given over to being too critical of yourself and exaggerating the effects, you need to tone it down!

However, should you be in the process of embracing “the accept no responsibility mode,” that must stop.

In other words, seek to avoid over reacting on either side of the proverbial fence.

Next…

Create New Habit Patterns

Two simple principles here:

1. Support, reinforce and celebrate the good discoveries you noted.
2. Begin changing the “bad” discoveries you observed.

Just in case you traversed through any of my previous writings, after reading my next basic point you could find yourself saying, “Yep, that’s Lee.”

And here is that point.  When you think about changing those habit patterns, strive to make your progress based on:

What is doable.

That is, doable within the framework of your own lifestyle, personality, the season of life you are in, and your own unique set of gifts, challenge areas, and abilities.

Set yourself up for: (1) success; and (2) encouragement.

And to assist you in the process…

Listen To Your Spouse

Listen to what a loving spouse says to you directly… and indirectly.

The direct approach takes little personal brilliance to comprehend: “Lee, you’re the father and the children need a father this weekend.”

That’s what I call one of those “Duh factors!”

The indirect approach can be a slight bit more problematic as you know.  I know of no other way than to…

Work at listening with your heart,
And observing with the same.

• Emotions.
• Moods.
• Speech patterns.
• Body language.
• The whole non-verbal communicational shot.

But do make a concentrated effort to listen!

One more suggestion…

“Bring In The Joy” For All It’s Worth

When you are successful in any way, take notes: good, quality, life enhancing personal victory notations.

• Seize those.
• Capture the moments.
• Put them inside of you somehow.

So that you can review them later.

And then review it later!

Smiles, voice tone, hugs, “I’m glad I did that” thoughts, conversations..

Anything.

Just take note, “absorb” what you can, and continue to do so for the purpose of reinforcing the chosen direction of your life.

That’s It!

I hope this brief series proves to be an encouragement to you and those you love in the days ahead. Haven’t read the other to?  No problem.  The first in the series is here, and second may be found here.

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Lee is a writer, online marketer and coach. With a passion for on purpose living and making a positive impact in the world, he seeks to encourage people in their personal and professional lives. See his Inspirational Handbook for Attraction Marketers here http://attractionmarketinghandbook.com

Interesting in exploring the possibility of working with Lee as a coach? Go here to check out his FREE 15 minute session and learn more.  http://marketingmerge.com/coaching

Digging Deeper

May these brief words of mine prove to be a blessing for you and those you love in one way or another.

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Men: Reflect On What You Are About To Read

• Am I striving to be the best I can as an “attraction marketer“? Absolutely.
• Do I desire to accomplish my business goals for the purpose of enhancing my life and the lives of those I influence in a positive manner?  Absolutely.

However…

Even though I am sixty-four and the children do not live in my home, I do know one thing for sure: I never want to hear anything like this…

“Well, pops, I’m glad you ‘made it’ as a business person during this transition period of your life where you went from being in ministry in the educational realm to being a successful online marketer.  I’m glad for you.  But somewhere along the line your attraction for us kids dropped off — way off — and we took second place to you as a dad.”

I don’t know you, you aspirations or your drives and how they are being handled at this stage of your life: and I certainly don’t have to.

But one thing for sure: I do know that if you are a dad now or planning on being one, I would encourage you to thoughtfully read the article below.

It may be far from the best you may ever read, but I simply don’t care.  What matters to me is that you sense the heartbeat of the article, apply it to you in a positive manner at this stage of your, and use it as a motivation to keep on trying to be the best dad (or grandfather) you can while in the process of building the best possible business you can.

“Attraction Marketing Excellence:
On Being A Sensitive Dad”
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A View From The Men’s Room

I could hardly believe what I was hearing. A father and his son had entered the men’s room. While I was washing my hands, I listened as the father wielded a series of demanding and demeaning statements at his son as if they were swords in a battle for … who knows what?

And all about going to the bathroom quickly!

It was the perfect victory.

• The enemy (the son) had been slain.
• The battle was won.
• The general had summoned his one-man army to do his bidding.

It was also totally and completely ridiculous. There was no consideration for the feelings or physical needs of the young person.

The “bad boy” had won the day — and the bad boy was not the son.

It was the son’s insensitive dad.

I Felt Sad And Angry

This incident occurred while on vacation. I loved vacation except for one aspect: watching fathers deal with their children.

I was sad.
And I was angry.

The “interesting” thing was that when I related this observation to my daughter and son-in-law, they proceeded to share with me their same discouragement while they were on a recent trip to a theme park.

Their message was the same:

“We had a great time. The only discouraging thing was seeing dads with their children.”

I Agree: It Is Far From Easy

I am a father and I would be among the first to declare that raising children is not an easy task.

Parts of it are rough. Real rough.

I would also be quick to admit the times I have failed as a father.  How could I not? I may have a few answers but that doesn’t mean I’ve lived them all..

• All time
• In all of the best possible ways.

But I do hope that no one has ever said this about me after observing my relationship with any of my children or grand children:

“We saw the most discouraging thing today. This guy was a jerk. The way he treated those kids was awful.  No respect. No honor. Only demands and unrealistic expectations. I tell ya, it was sad.”

There Is A Better Way… And As Dads We All Know It

Let me be quick to add…

All is not bad.

I have seen many loving, caring fathers throughout the years. I love watching those types of dads relate to their children. It is one of my personal delights in life

With that in mind, I am offering a few simple suggestions for a better way: a better way for fathers to relate to their children than the two negative examples I have shared with you.

I Will Center On Five Themes

1. Consideration

2. Respect

3. Humility

4. Compassion

5. Love

Two comments as I transition into my suggestions:

• You will quickly discover that this will not be a long and drawn out discussion of these themes. Enjoy.
• Many of the points will be shared through using simple “affirmations” — or descriptive comments if you please.

These affirmations will help you personalize what is said.

So…

We have discussed a few of the “bad boy” characteristics.

Let’s turn our attention to five characteristics of the “good boys.” That is, men who are determined *not* to be thought of as “one of those insensitive dads.”

Consideration

Consideration says…

“I adjust my expectations according to the needs, maturity level and emotional capabilities of the child I am relating to at the moment.”

Because of the important aspects of the statement you just read, I’m going to repeat it and break it down for you.

That’s my part.

Yours will be to reflect on each aspect as you read it one more time. Reflect on it through the lens of how you would have liked to be treated as a young-person-in-the-making. (The extra spaces are there by design to prompt reflection).

“I adjust

My expectations

According to

The needs,

Maturity level

And emotional capabilities

Of the child

I am relating to

At the moment.”

Respect

Respect says…

“I see this person entrusted to my care as one who is worthy of my honor, approval and love.”

This mental stance provides for me a frame. A frame I wrap around my child *to begin with.* The child is worthy of my honor, approval and love — from the beginning.

It is a part of the package each child should *sense* in me from “Day One” so-to-speak.

Humility

Humility says…

• “Because I am still learning, I give my child space and time to learn.”
• “Because I still fail, I forgive and support my child when he or she fails.”
• “Because I respond poorly when people are angry with me for reasons I do not understand, I resist all uncontrolled and self-centered anger when dealing with my child.”

Compassion

Compassion says…

• “I am a ’show and tell’ person. I show my child I care. I tell my child I care.”
• “I strive to be gentle, not harsh.”
• “I care and my child senses it.”

Love

Love says… all of the above.

A DISCLAIMER

Let me make something perfectly clear: children can — and do — hurt their parents: good parents.

Parents who in a very real sense lay down their lives for their kids and still get kicked in the guts while trying to help their children be happy and succeed in life.

These parents know a special kind of pain. A pain that no one really wants to understand. I salute those parents.

You may be one of them.

So my disclaimer is..

• I realize this is a two-sided fence
• My purpose is not to add guilt to a conscience already plagued by the “Why’s” of their child’s bad attitudes and behavior — in spite of hundreds of hours of trying to do what’s right.

Rather, if you happen to be one of those parents — and especially a dad since that is the topic of these comments — I want you to hear these words:

“I thank you for trying.”

I thank you for trying and for the lonely hours you have spent that only you, and possibly your spouse — and God — knows about…

The tears. The heartache and the pain that goes on and on as each new report surfaces about some action or attitude your child has displayed.

For those times, tears and heartache — I reflect to you my appreciation.

And I’m sure I represent only one of many voices that would echo the same to you if they could.

Therefore, review these comments and take note of each positive thing you have done.

• Take note.
• And take a bow.
• You deserve it.
• And we applaud you.

Yours for living a courageously beautiful life,

Lee

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And Now That You Have Read And Reflected On A Few Things…

• Continue… either now or later.
• Reflect.
• Journal.
• Pray
• Act.

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I Will Take Control Of My Mind

I tend to read books slow at times…

• Reflecting
• Learning
• Taking Notes
• Applying

And, lately, I’ve been returning to Napoleon Hill’s Keys To Positive Thinking: 10 Steps To Health, Wealth and Success by Napoleion Hill and MichaelJ. Ritt. Jr.

And I’d like to share with my readers this “creed” from the book that I have totally enjoyed. Naturally, we need to adjust things to our own frame of mind, belief systems, etc., but I am sure you may quickly find your own applications.  Of course, I may help in that process with a few questions

Here’s what I would term the affirmation from the book:

• I believe my mind is my own.
• I believe I can take possession of my own mind.
• I believe I can direct and control my emotions, moods, feelings, intellect, tendencies, attitudes, passions, and habits with the intention of developing a positive mental attitude.
• I will develop a positive mental attitude.

Obviously, taking charge of our own minds for our own reasons — whether for attraction marketing, home business, family development, personal growth, or any other area of our personal or professional lives — is crucial.

Making It Yours

As I mention above, you may not be in agreement with all of the thoughts, word choices, etc. but I would imagine you could design your own. You might ask yourself:

• What wording would I change?
• How could I say it in my way, from my heart, to use for my purposes?

And, then, personally may want to decide how you could bring whatever you create to the forefront of your life in a way that would be meaningful to you?

• Make a quote and post somewhere.
• How about a “sticky note” with that computer program you have?
• Possibly in your journal?
• Etc.

Yep, Go Ahead and Share!

And your thoughts or quick tips are?

Did you find this helpful, inspiring or simply a good reminder?  If so, why not share it?  Bring someone else in one the blessing.

All the best to you and those you love this day!

Self Development
Taking charge of all I am
For the purpose of becoming all I can be
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A bit on the unusual side for me on a post, I just sat down, began to write, and this is what came out in the process.  Enjoy!

On Maintaining Hope In Business and in the Business Of Life

You,

Your team,

Or those around you will struggle with maintaing hope at times.

Most of us do in my opinion.

While there may exist many formulas for regaining hope, my thoughts today centered around not so much of a formula but rather a simple observation.

On Maintaining Hope…

Hope is maintained by an ongoing process

of realigning thoughts and actions with faith based intentions.

©Lee Wise

I take stock of who I am on the inside.

And if hope is lacking for whatever the reason, I ask a simple question:

“What is truth here?”

And then: “Will truth reign?”

I may be down, disappointed and not at all ready to move forward.  But in seeing what I could do based on where I believe it is important for me to be in the next steps of my journey, I…

• Realign my thoughts with where I want to head.
• Establish the validity of the goal.
• Assess what I can do as opposed to being overwhelmed with what I feel I can’t do.
• And I decide to take some action that truly assists me in the process.

That action could be actually doing something or deciding to not do anything because I am proverbially speaking, “Shot.”

But I do it.  And somewhere in the process a measure of hope returns or is maintained to some degree.

Maybe nothing fancy, life changing or what some might call dramatic…

But just enough to keep me moving forward.

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inspirational note. The copyright and this resource box

must be included.

Lee is a writer an online marketer. With a passion for on

purpose living and making a positive impact in the world, he

seeks to encourage people in their personal and professional

lives.

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sending a blank email to: beautifulmoment@aweber.com

Remember to confirm your request!

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Purpose Filled Living
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Purpose Filled Living Is...

Forged in the heart,

Inspired by the dreams it creates,

Sealed by commitment,

Reinforced through trial,

And realized throughout the process.

In our quest for personal and internet marketing excellence, it seems to me that the power of purpose needs to both forge and sustain our efforts.

It is with that in mind, that I created this brief quote today and decided to post it here.

I hope that it may prove to be a blessing for you this day!

Lee

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